Master the Art and Science of Effective Questioning Skills with the NLP Meta Model

Effective listening and effective questioning are like the two sides of the same coin. You cannot experience the benefits of effective listening without effective questioning and you cannot ask effective questions without effective listening. The NLP Meta Model and TOTE strategies can help you both listen more clearly and question more effectively.

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Effective Questioning Skills

Course includes

NLP Meta Model and TOTE are two of the most effective and comprehensive questioning models that can help you collect specific details from your clients during coaching or therapy sessions.

Do you need this course on the NLP Meta Model and TOTE?

Have you ever been:

  • Confused because you were in a conversation with someone who spoke a lot without really saying anything?
  • In a situation where you were being accused of something but were not able to pinpoint what were you being accused of?
  • In a fight but weren’t really able to figure out what the fight was about?

If yes, this course is meant for you!!!

Course Overview

  • If you are a trainer, have you been in a program where participants kept getting into arguments without being able to explain what was their concern or their question?
  • If you are a therapist or a coach, you would surely have been in sessions where the client even after an hour-long conversation was all over the place. You weren’t able to understand what problem the client wants to work on and how exactly you can help.
  • In your personal life, do you have friends, family members or a partner who has a problem? You would really like to help if only you could understand what their problem is.

Wouldn’t it be great to:

  • Have the ability to get specific relevant information in each of the above situations?
  • Have the skill to extract information out of individuals or a group of people during a meeting or an interaction?

Wondering how exactly would you be able to do this?

The answer is quite simple:

Asking the right questions at the right time, Isn’t it?

A step-by-step guide to use NLP Meta Model

You are going to begin by understanding the limitations of language and why language despite being our primary mode of communication, it is also probably the single biggest reason for miscommunication.

You will then explore the Neuro-Linguistic Programming Meta Model in a way that will help you listen and ask questions to overcome these limitations. This will obviously not just help you improve your communication but also help you understand yourself and others more clearly which is the basis for building better and more meaningful relationships.

Key outcomes from learning NLP Meta Model

  • Master the art and science of effective questioning to help clients
    • Get clarity about their challenges and help them bridge the gap between their perceptions and their reality
    • Clearly define their desired outcomes in a specific and observable manner
  • Develop open and more trusting relationships
  • Get a deeper understanding of others and their perspectives
  • Learn to stop judging and start listening
  • Make decisions based on information rather than assumption
  • Reduce levels of tension and conflict during tricky conversations
  • Build skills to keep the conversation focused

As a bonus, we have added the NLP T.O.T.E model used for understanding strategies that people follow. The questions based on this model can help you get a deeper understanding of human behaviour.

So if you are a psychologist, coach or trainer who would like to Master the art and science of asking effective questions, enrol for this course now and incorporate the NLP Meta Model in your Coaching or Psychotherapy practice.

Course Facilitator


Nitin Shah

Author: Destiny of Choice
Founder: ICHARS Support Foundation
CEO: Institute of Clinical Hypnosis and Related Sciences (ICHARS)

Renowned transformative coach who is committed to guiding change facilitators like Coaches, Psychologists and Trainers into their highest potential

Course Curriculum

What is Meta Model? 00:02:00
Meta Model Purpose 00:04:00
Surface Structure and Deep Structure 00:06:00
Simple and Comparative Deletion 00:05:00
Lack of Referential Index and Unspecified Verbs 00:06:00
Nominalization 00:03:00
Universal Quantifier 00:03:00
Model Operators 00:04:00
Mind Reading, Cause and Effect 00:03:00
Lost Performative 00:02:00
Complex Equivalence 00:02:00
Using Meta Model
Quiz – Ask Questions to challenge violations Unlimited
Using Meta Model effectively 00:02:00
NLP Strategies 00:06:00
Understanding how we do what we do FREE 00:07:00
T.O.T.E 00:05:00
TOTE Examples 00:04:00
TOTE – Questions 00:08:00


The training does not give you the license to practice counselling/psychotherapy but is aimed at enhancing your therapy skills. Please check your state/national laws to practice therapy and ethical guidelines for your region.

The participant is fully responsible for the therapy sessions they conduct and their outcomes, the trainer or the institute takes no responsibility arising out of the sessions that the participant conducts.

Master the Art and Science of Effective Questioning Skills with the NLP Meta Model



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  1. Avatar for Nitin Shah
    Wonderful Session

    This course had helped me to understand the Generalization, Distortion and Deletion in depth and learnt questioning techniques

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    Sampada Kathuria AroraJanuary 9, 2022 at 2:35 am

    The course was informative but also too technical in language for understanding.

  3. Avatar for Nitin Shah
    The research is really well done, and everything is explained very simply!

    learning is made very exciting

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    S. Uma MaheswariJuly 9, 2022 at 11:03 am

    Gained great knowledge and found it very useful.

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    Good Course.

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    Premsai SamontorayFebruary 2, 2023 at 5:08 pm

    organized and easy to understand

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    love the TOTE model

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    The information provided is simple and easy to grasp

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    Course helped to observe behaviour more closely.

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    Farhat Jahan khanFebruary 2, 2024 at 11:12 pm

    good and very detailed information

Master the Art and Science of Effective Questioning Skills with the NLP Meta Model