Most of us wish we could improve certain things about ourselves. These improvements may be related to the way we think, the way we feel, our skills, behaviours, lifestyle or even the end result (outcome) we seem to be achieving.
Talking to people around us, introspection, reading Self Help articles and attending self-help programs are generally some of the things most of us do to create these improvements. A lot of self-help material (training programs and articles) is mired in ideas about positive thinking that are at best ineffective and at worst destructive. To clarify some of these concepts so that you can apply them safely and more effectively we add some articles from time to time on the ICHARS blog. These articles are marked with the tag “Self Help” and are made available on this page.
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Diagnosis and treatment of emotional/mental disorders require trained mental health professionals. Self-Help Pages should NOT be used as a substitute or alternative for seeking professional care for the diagnosis of any psychological/psychiatric disorders. Nothing here is meant to replace professional advice or care from a qualified mental health practitioner. Please refer to the therapists and coaches directory to consult trained mental health professionals.
In an earlier post we had described, how our behaviours are generally driven by our internal story and that we can influence our behaviour and the behaviours of others by changing these story. In this post we will shift our
Let me begin with a question. Generally speaking, when people have a problem, what question do they ask themselves? “Why me”? Isn’t this the most common question? It is and yet it is also the most useless one to ask!
Introduction Would you like to learn to effectively use conversational hypnosis to become irresistibly persuasive? If yes, answer the following question before proceeding. Have you come across someone who you wanted to continue listening to? Someone who said things in
If the huge popularity of the BBC’s ‘Sherlock Holmes’ has got you, like everyone else, and if you have ever wondered about this legendary character’s miraculous skills of deduction, memory, and problem solving, this blog is for you. Do you
Introduction Learned Helplessness is a formidable barrier that often impedes individuals from realizing their full potential, despite possessing the necessary skills and resources. In our exploration of this psychological phenomenon, we delve into its intricacies and offer strategies for triumphing
Falling in love is the easy part. Sustaining, nurturing, creating and maintaining a relationship in which love cannot just survive but thrive; that’s what creating extraordinary relationships is all about. The first step towards creating happy relationships is to re-look
When two people come together to get into a relationship, they may be looking for a short term fling or a long term serious relationship. It is obviously important that the two partners have the same expectation from the relationship
In life, we often face challenges that tear at the very fabric of our existence. One such challenge, universally experienced yet seldom addressed, is the aftermath of a breakup. No university, school, culture, or the law of the state.. really
Understanding relationships is a crucial aspect of human interaction. One concept that can greatly enhance this understanding is emotional and physical sexuality. In this article, we will explore the significance of emotional and physical sexuality, the differences between partners, and
Introduction Most people set goals, quite a few even create a plan of actions but very few actually achieve their goals. We will explore the different reasons for this and also understand how you can use the NLP Anchoring process
The whole point of setting a goal is to be able to accomplish it. Understanding why goal setting doesn’t work for those that it doesn’t work for can give us insights into how to make goal setting work. In other
Mental health is one of the most spoken about topics in today’s day and age. Right from celebrities to medical practitioners, many are talking about the need to acknowledge and seek help from mental health practitioners especially for ones who
Introduction The first thing that most of us do when faced with adversity appears is to focus on the negatives. “Why me?” is one of the most common question that we ask ourselves. Somewhere we miss the fact that the
What are suggestions? Suggestions are statements spoken with a view to bring about some change in the person being spoken to. Tips on wording of suggestions: These suggestions can be used to create desired change in clients. For better results before
“Acceptance” is one of those concepts that I understand yet have found difficult to define. I realised this while writing a post on anger, in which I explained how anger is generally a result of a lack of acceptance. So,
Most of us believe that anger is a negative emotion and it’s ‘bad’ to get angry. Research results show that anger can lead to behavioural breakdown and health-related issues. But Aristotle thought “anger was good for a person.”
Recently I came across an interesting article titled “Feeling guilty or sinful? Just Wash your hands !!!”. The article was about understanding how not only our mental states determine our behaviour but also how our behaviour can help us control our mental states.
Guilt is a cognitive or an emotional experience that occurs when a person realizes or believes — accurately or not — that he or she has compromised his or her own standards of conduct or has violated a moral standard, and bears significant responsibility for that violation.
